Vanessa Gyan Urges Women To Choose Happiness, Independence And Self-Worth

At the 6th edition of the 3Media Women’s Brunch, Vanessa Gyan, delivered a simple yet powerful message. One that centred on self-discovery, independence and the importance of prioritising personal happiness.

In a world increasingly shaped by social media and curated lifestyles, Vanessa challenged women to look beyond appearances and ask a deeper question: Who are you, truly?

“We’re living in a time where everything is about aesthetics,” she noted. “But what really makes you happy?”

Her message was clear, happiness should never be compromised. Vanessa encouraged women to walk away from anything that no longer serves their peace or fulfilment, reminding them that it is perfectly okay to step back and choose themselves.

“If something does not make you happy, you don’t have to stay in that unhappiness,” she said.

Beyond emotional well-being, Vanessa emphasised the importance of financial and personal independence. She urged women especially younger ones always to have something of their own, something they can rely on regardless of life’s uncertainties.

“Always have your own,” she stressed. “So no matter what happens, you can take care of yourself and your children.”

She challenged the audience to reflect on the lifestyles they live and whether they would be able to sustain them independently. For Vanessa, true empowerment lies in the ability to stand on one's own, without relying entirely on others.

“Without anyone, can you maintain your lifestyle?” she asked. “That’s something we need to teach young women.”

Her reflections also touched on the importance of self-investment. As a mother of three, Vanessa acknowledged how easy it is for women to constantly pour into others; children, work and family often at the expense of themselves. However, she emphasised that self-care is not a luxury, but a necessity.

“We pour so much into other people,” she said. “But you have to pour into yourself first.”

For Vanessa, self-care can be as simple as taking time out, looking good and feeling good. She highlighted how even the smallest acts like putting on lip gloss can uplift one’s mood and confidence.

“Make sure you look good and feel good,” she encouraged, adding that confidence often begins with how you show up for yourself.

Closing her message, Vanessa reminded women of life’s most important truth: we only get one.

“You only live once,” she said. “So live for you.”

Her words served as a refreshing reminder that amidst responsibilities, expectations and external pressures, choosing yourself is not selfish, it is essential.